Gestational Surrogacy tends to have its own special considerations for gay prospective parents.
The relationship between the surrogate and the parents is usually a very long and close one in most cases. The process from matching with the surrogate to the birth of the child typically takes at least 1 year, and during that time the surrogate’s family often also becomes involved. After the birth of the baby, that relationship often continues for many years thereafter.
Gay parents generally feel very comfortable with the presence of the gestational surrogate in their lives, often staying touch for birthdays, holidays, etc.
Finding an Egg Donor
Often one of the initial questions is how to find an Egg Donor. Some fertility clinics such as American Fertility Services have in-house egg donor programs, but specialized Egg Donor Agencies can also be an excellent resource. We can provided the contacts for reputable agencies if needed.
Lastly but less commonly, a suitable Egg Donor can be proposed by the intended parents themselves (a family member or a friend).
Please note that the same strict screening requirements for annonymous Egg Donors also would apply to known Egg Donors, and some of the potential known Donor candidates may not meet these qualifications. If in doubt, you can always ask your physician. We are here to help.
Finding a Surrogate
Last but not least, we also need to find a Gestational Carrier. Gestational Carriers are mostly found through specialized agencies such as the ones that partner with American Fertility Services. We will be more than happy to forward you the contact information based on your particular needs and circumstances. Most Gestational Carriers love to work with gay intended parents so please rest assured that you will find a suitable match. Gestational Carriers can also be found in some cases, albeit rarely, by the intended parents themselves, either with a family member or friend, or by means of acquaintances or social networks. But as with Egg Donors, strict rules also apply in order to accept them for an IVF treatment. Please note that Surrogacy Agencies provide you with the most guarantees since a very thorough social screening takes place to ensure the Gestational Carrier is willing to work with you for the right reasons.
The Agencies can also follow up with the Gestational Carriers closely to faciliate communications, ensure compliance, and provide support, all of which can provide a smoother experience for the Gestational Carriers and the Intended Parents.